Confidence in Dating is Within a Man

Confidence in Dating is Within a Man

Article by A. Baker

A popular woman’s magazine conducted a survey to find the attractive quality of a man; the winning quality was confidence of a man. Confidence in dating is more important to make a lasting impression and to ensure a long lasting relationship.

Each woman defines confidence in dating in different ways. Sometimes it is defined as confidence in the eyes of a man or in the body language. It is observed as fearlessness or the man who displays fear is not self confident. If a man’s self worth is low and he is unsure of his abilities it is termed as lack of confidence.

Confidence in dating is important as it attracts woman. Women are attracted to a man who has self assurance. Please note self assurance and confidence is not arrogance. A confident man knows his ability and worth but does not belittle others; at the same time he is resilient. A confident man takes responsibility of his future, job and his relationships with others. This sort of confidence in dating attracts woman.

If a man has confidence in himself and self assurance, he can easily win hearts. Women generally assess a man by his character and judge how much he can be trusted. His ambition and perseverance are more important to a woman who makes a decision to have a long relationship with a man. The confidence in dating is also a character trait and self assurance factor that is displayed to the woman. If a man is not very handsome, but more self assured and ambitious, most women will like him.

A man’s care for a woman and his concern about her progress and well being makes him even more attractive. A handsome man who lacks confidence in dating a women approaches fearfully but his good looks fail even to get a glance from a woman. A man who lacks self confidence prejudges before even meeting his date and arrives at a conclusion whether he is worthy of the attention of a women. All men lacking in confidence feel that they are not worth a woman’s attention. Men who lack confidence do not make the first move to invite a woman on a date and does not lead the way to have a lasting relationship.

Confidence is achieved from within. Most of the finals of sports display that mental strength and confidence wins the match rather than physical ability.

A self respecting and self understanding man with confidence in dating approaches with self assurance and wins the woman’s heart. All men and women’s confidence is reduced in work, home, relationships and in different situations of life. However, the tenacious one picks himself up and bounces back. Such regain of confidence makes men successful. Honesty and confidence is important to gain the trust and long lasting relationship. The physical fitness of a man has to be good to instill confidence. Work out in a gym ensures the correct physical fitness. Dressing nicely also boosts one’s confidence. Virtues, truthfulness and straight forwardness increase the confidence in dating. All men and women have a lot of limitations, but with confidence any one can achieve what he wants in any field; especially to gain a woman’s trust and lasting relationship for life.

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What Creates Confidence?

What Creates Confidence?

Article by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

The Encarta World English Dictionary defines “confidence” as “a belief or self-assurance in your ability to succeed.”

We all know people who appear to be very confident professionally, yet when it comes to personal relationships, appear to be very insecure.

Personal confidence is totally different than professional confidence in that personal confidence is about who you are and professional confidence is about what you do.

PERSONAL CONFIDENCE

What creates personal confidence? How does one become confident in who they are?

If you grew up with parents who valued their own inner qualities and were role models for inner confidence, and valued your inner qualities and supported you in being who you are, it is likely that you feel personally confident.

But must of us did not grow up that way. Most of us grew up with parents or other caregivers who not only lacked personal confidence, but who may have blamed and shamed us, undermining our sense of self.

However, no matter how much we may have been de-valued as children, it is never too late to learn to value ourselves now. The secret in gaining personal confidence is to get to know your true Self – your soul essence – who you really are.

Your true Self is your essential inner qualities that you were born with, such as your ability to love, to be kind and caring, to be compassionate and empathic, and to listen well. It is about your basic goodness. It is also about your creativity, your unique talents, your particular forms of intelligence, your sense of humor, your smile, your laugh – all that is uniquely you.

If you were not valued for your true Self, then it is likely that you are not seeing or valuing your essence qualities. In fact, you might have decided a long time ago that you are not good enough – that you are somehow inadequate as a person. It is this false belief that creates feelings of inadequacy and a lack of personal confidence.

Right now, imagine that you can see yourself, not from the eyes of your programmed ego wounded self, but from the eyes of your higher self – the eyes of love. Visualize yourself as a very small child and look inside at who that child is. What do you see? Is there anything about you as a small child that makes you unlovable? What are the wonderful qualities that are inherent in you as a child? If this child were your actual child, how would you feel about him or her?

Throughout the day today, practice noticing and valuing your inner qualities. If you do something kind, say to your inner child, “I really value your kindness.” If you are creative or funny, express appreciation for these qualities. Day by day, as you consistently value your intrinsic qualities, you will find yourself gaining in personal confidence. When you learn to appreciate rather than judge who you are you will feel personally confident.

PROFESSIONAL CONFIDENCE

Professional confidence comes with time and practice. The more you learn and practice a particular skill, the better you become at it and the more confidence you have regarding this skill. With enough time and practice, anyone can become confident in their ability to perform.

Some people attempt to define themselves by their performance, believing that what they DO defines who they ARE. When this is the case, they will continue to lack personal confidence, no matter how successful they are professionally. When you attach your worth to your external success, then you have to continually succeed to be worthy, which creates much inner stress. If you find yourself constantly judging yourself to get yourself to perform, you might want to notice that it is this self-judgment that erodes your personal confidence.

Confidence as an adult does not come from others approval. Valuing both who you are and what you do is what creates a deep level of inner confidence.

About the Author

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is a best-selling author of 8 books and co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding

Approaching Women With Confidence

Approaching Women With Confidence

Article by Learn To Approach

When it comes to approaching women confidence is vital. It really does not matter how you open a conversation with a women, but if you are not confident, this will be one of the first things she picks up on. The great things about confidence are that it is situational and it can be learnt by anyone. Let me explain:

Nobody is born with confidence; confidence in any area is learnt over time. When it comes to approaching women the only way to get confidence is to actually go out there and approach women. Most guys put this in the wrong order, they believe that when they get more confidence they will approach more women, you see this is wrong, you get the confidence from doing not the other way around. You can read all the material, listen to or watch seminars all you want and yes I do believe they can be valuable but if you don